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    Letter to Babytalk magazine

    Here is the letter I ma finalizing to send to Babytalk magazine. I had been reading it throughout my pregnancy..mostly wishing I could worry about the little stupid things these other moms worried about. But, I do remember them doing a segment for a couple months about Downs sydrome, and they also have had several articles about Autism...so I am going to assume they may be interested in CDH as well.

    Here is is, let me know if you have any ideas! I am mostly open to constructive criticism!

    To the Editor;
    My name is Sarah Deskins and I am writing in an attempt to raise awareness on a subject very personal to me and about 2-3,000 mothers a year. When I was pregnant with my son, Jeremiah, I learned through the 20 week ultrasound that he would have a very complicated yet virtually unheard of birth defect.
    Congential Diaphragmatic Hernia affects about 1600 babies a year in this country. 50% of them will not ultimately win the battle. Some will live minutes, some months, even years. Some will die of infection, some will simply tire of fighting, and some parents will have to decide that there is no reason left to make them fight anymore. There are no 2 cases alike, and there is no known cause.
    CDH is a defect occuring anywhere from the irst four weeks of gestation on, and it happens whehn a portion of the diaphragm either fails to form at all or forms a hole. The internal organs in the abdominal cavity herniate through this hole or unformed portion and crowd out the area for the heart and lungs to form. Lung development being the last to happen in gestation, they are always affected. There are many types of CDH and the severity and outcome depend on the organs involved, hernia size, lung/heart function, and other complications.
    Jeremiah had virtually no left diapragm, whcih caused his stomach, liver, bowel, and gallbladder to occupy his chest cavity. This displaced his heart, restricted left lung growth to the size of a nickel, and caused pulmonary artery deformities in his right lung. he had other problems involving his kidneys, and dealt with pulmonary hypertension and severe gastroesophogeal reflux. After several close calls and 5 surgereis he came home 3 months to the day of his birth with a plethora of medications, oxygen, and a feeding pump. We had our Christmas, New Years, and 20 more days. He died in bed with me early in the morning of January 12th, 2008.
    Since my experience with Jeremiah, I have become an Ohio representative for a CDH support and awareness group called Cherubs. We know there will probably never be a "cure" for CDH, but so long as it is taking our children we feel ther should be a system of support for the parents facing it. There shoudl be awareness brought to the public about the battles these baies fight. Even if we never even find it's cause, shouldn't we be behind the babies giving it a run for it's money? CDH occurs as often as Cystic Fibrosis and Spina Bifida, but it has next to no media coverage. No one seems to be aware of the parents who give up their jobs, downsize to apartments, or live months in Ronald McDonald houses to stand by these babies. The families at Cherubs are willing to tell of their NICU Christmases, hours lost to waiting rooms and phone conferences, the late nights watching tiny chests shiver under oscillator breaths. We want people to be as proud of our babies as we are, whether survivor or non- survivor. Most people look at our children with their vents, traches, tubes, adn scars with pity. But if we find an outlet to tell their stories, pity will be replaced with respect.
    If Babytalk would like to help us tell our stories, please contact me at the information below.
    I thank you for your consideration,
    Sarah E. Deskins
    sdeskins@cherubs-cdh.org
    400 Park St. Apt. B1
    Cardington, Ohio 43315
    (419)512-3446
    Ohio Co-Rep/Indiana Rep Mother to Jeremiah Isaac Deskins 9/21/2007-1/12/2008 Left Sided Agenesis Type CDH. NICU 3 months- Home 22 days. 1 repair- nissen- gtube- wound vac & graft- enlarged liver- kidney reflux due to malformation of kidney valves-narrowed aorta- malformation of right pulmonary vessels and of course- the ever present hypoplastic left lung. http://www.jeremiah-deskins.virtual-memorials.com http://heavenly-angels.org/graphics/...ingmyangel.gif http://lilypie.com/pic/2009/10/29/V8wd.jpghttp://lagf.lilypie.com/tQNem4.png http://lbdm.lilypie.com/ucO7m4.png

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    Obviously, I will be spell checking it before i send it, dont worry about that!

    any ideas? anything you want to add?
    Ohio Co-Rep/Indiana Rep Mother to Jeremiah Isaac Deskins 9/21/2007-1/12/2008 Left Sided Agenesis Type CDH. NICU 3 months- Home 22 days. 1 repair- nissen- gtube- wound vac & graft- enlarged liver- kidney reflux due to malformation of kidney valves-narrowed aorta- malformation of right pulmonary vessels and of course- the ever present hypoplastic left lung. http://www.jeremiah-deskins.virtual-memorials.com http://heavenly-angels.org/graphics/...ingmyangel.gif http://lilypie.com/pic/2009/10/29/V8wd.jpghttp://lagf.lilypie.com/tQNem4.png http://lbdm.lilypie.com/ucO7m4.png

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    Hi Sarah,

    I think you have done a wonderful job. I like the way you introduce CDH and then go on with your personal story. The only thing I can think of to add is that sometimes (as in Lily's case) it wasn't diagosed until after birth, even though we go to an ob/gyn who performed an ultrasound at each visit. That astounded me but he believes that the position Lily was in prevented him from seeing it and she must not have herniated til later in the pregnancy. But as you say all cases are so different and the drs only presume this as we were blessed that in Lily's case she still had a decent amount of lung tissue and there wasn't too much damage.

    I also want to say how sorry I am for you guys losing Jeremiah. I can't imagine what you have been through and I really feel for you and your family. Good luck with the article!!

    Danielle xx
    Danielle - Lily's mum. Lily 31.07.07- Diagnosed at Birth - LCDH- Repair: 13 hours old- Ventilator: 5 days- NG tube: 7 days- Hospital: 16 days. Also mum to Ethan 21/06/05 http://i256.photobucket.com/albums/h...nLilysmall.jpg

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    Sarah, what you have written sounds perfect but like Danielle i would also add about CDH not always being detected pregnancy.
    I hope you get a response or better yet an article in babytalk, goodluck
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    I truly hope that Babytalk will write an article. I sent them a letter and had no response.
    Positve thoughts that you get them to write an article.
    Let us know what comes of it.
    Stephanie (Shelby's Mom LCDH 7-10-06)- ECMO 7 days- 2 DH repairs- hital hernia repair- Cliff Lip repair- Nissen and Mickey button. Shelby is eating and drinking by mouth now!!! THIS IS FANTASTIC!!!!! Mom to Lexi 8- Morgan 6 and Taylor 5. Blessed to have our little butterfly and our beautiful girls. [url]www.youtube.com/cdhsupport[/url] - Shelby's Journey [img]http://i258.photobucket.com/albums/hh257/gracebutterfly/CDHAwarenessRibbonShelbysmall.jpg[/img]

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    I might've mentioned it before but I also wrote into one of the Aussie mags "Practical Parenting" as they usually do similar feature articles on other conditions but haven't had any luck. I'm going to try again though.....anything to get the word out there hey!
    Danielle - Lily's mum. Lily 31.07.07- Diagnosed at Birth - LCDH- Repair: 13 hours old- Ventilator: 5 days- NG tube: 7 days- Hospital: 16 days. Also mum to Ethan 21/06/05 http://i256.photobucket.com/albums/h...nLilysmall.jpg

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    I like BabyTalk mag. Wonderful letter Sarah! Let us know if they reach you!
    Mommy to Shannon Elizabeth (01/16/07-01/19/07 LCDH and HLHS) Peanut Shelbe (miscarried 9/23/07 @ 8 weeks- due 4/10/08 ) Gracie Kathleen & Lily Anne (8/28/08 Blessings from their big sisters!) Shannon's Website! [url]www.shannonelizabeth.virtual-memorials.com[/url]

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    I can add the misdiagnoses of C-Cam and the sometimes undiagnosed issues as well. I kind of have my numbers backwards to, which I will need to fix. Im going to leave this up for a little while before I send it in.
    Its very frustrating how many moms have tried to get people to listen and get no response. But, if you send in a favorite baby must have product idea or some adorable little baby moment...you get a friggin years supply of diapers. Live in the NICU for a couple months, ultimatley lose your child...you get an awkward moment and blown off in conversation. No one likes to hear the sad stories. So, I dont really know what I expect but sometimes I get so mad at the world I could drive my car through a Baby Gap....
    Ohio Co-Rep/Indiana Rep Mother to Jeremiah Isaac Deskins 9/21/2007-1/12/2008 Left Sided Agenesis Type CDH. NICU 3 months- Home 22 days. 1 repair- nissen- gtube- wound vac & graft- enlarged liver- kidney reflux due to malformation of kidney valves-narrowed aorta- malformation of right pulmonary vessels and of course- the ever present hypoplastic left lung. http://www.jeremiah-deskins.virtual-memorials.com http://heavenly-angels.org/graphics/...ingmyangel.gif http://lilypie.com/pic/2009/10/29/V8wd.jpghttp://lagf.lilypie.com/tQNem4.png http://lbdm.lilypie.com/ucO7m4.png

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    Sarah-your letter sounds great! You are right, it is frustrating not to be heard and more or less ignored by some. People often want that happy story-they don't want the sad ending, but thats life. Not everything ends the way we want. I figure if we keep pushing someone eventually will listen...right? Just keep doing what you are doing Sarah, you are honoring Jeremiah's memory in so many wonderful ways.
    Corin New England State Rep [img]http://i171.photobucket.com/albums/u312/GabrielMommy1118/1-3.jpg[/img] [url]www.gabriel-nava.virtual-memorials.com[/url] Gabriels website [url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N66S-vt5sI8[/url] Gabriels Video [url]http://corinscrazylife.blogspot.com/[/url] My Blog [url]http://newenglandcherubs.wordpress.com[/url] New England Blog

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    Corin is right. I sent Shannon's story to all local news stations and papers with no response, not even a thanks but no thanks. I became frustrated, and am sad to say I don't know if I can work up the courage to send her story out knowing that people want to hear happy endings not the sad ones. One day I will try again but right now it is a little heart breaking for me. I am glad you have the courage to right and tell the world Jeremiah's story
    Mommy to Shannon Elizabeth (01/16/07-01/19/07 LCDH and HLHS) Peanut Shelbe (miscarried 9/23/07 @ 8 weeks- due 4/10/08 ) Gracie Kathleen & Lily Anne (8/28/08 Blessings from their big sisters!) Shannon's Website! [url]www.shannonelizabeth.virtual-memorials.com[/url]

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